How do I know if coaching or counseling is right for me?
- You want objective constructive feedback.
- You want to create and maintain a mutually satisfying intimate partner relationship that lasts.
- You want to live authentically and with intentionality.
- You want to maximize your personal and/or professional potential.
- You are having distressing symptoms and issues you've been unable to resolve on your own.
- You want to communicate effectively.
- You want to experience inner peace.
I've never done this before. What's it like?
Most people are understandably a little nervous the first time they call for a coaching or counseling appointment, but I want you to keep in mind that doing so is the first step toward experiencing the inner peace you desire. I want you to be as comfortable as possible, so please allow me to explain a little about the process.
When you contact me for an appointment, I will discuss with you the differences between coaching and counseling services, including your financial responsibility, so that you can make an informed decision whether to proceed with the appointment. I will make every effort to give you an appointment within the next few business days.
All appointments take place in my private office, which looks more like a comfortable family room than a sterile office. The first visit, which lasts about 1 hour, is called an “intake assessment.” The intake involves gathering a lot of information about your strengths, goals, and history, from the physical and emotional symptoms you have had or are currently experiencing, to the events, issues or challenges contributing to them. I ask that you bring your completed Adult Counseling Intake, Child/Adolescent Counseling Intake or Coaching Intake form so we can maximize our time together. Please note that I am not a physician; therefore, I cannot prescribe medication. Information you share with me for counseling is considered confidential health information and is protected by law. Please read the Notice of Privacy Practices form for more details.
I will collaborate with you to develop outcome goals on an individualized plan with your emotional, mental, physical, social and spiritual nature in mind. This may involve referrals to other appropriate resources (e.g., mental health professional, psychiatrist, physician, self-help group, etc.). If additional appointments would be beneficial, we will discuss the frequency of future sessions, which typically last 45-55 minutes each, and whether it makes sense to invite others to participate (e.g., spouse, parent).
As a marriage counselor and Relationship Coach, I utilize principles of Attachment Theory and the research of John Gottman Ph.D. For mental health counseling, I predominantly use Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (looking at the importance of your thoughts in how you feel and what you do), though I draw from other theoretical frameworks as well. My coaching approach involves tenants of Reality Therapy and Solution-focused Brief Therapy, as well as knowledge and experience gained through my education and prior career as a Human Resource professional.
I typically assign homework (e.g., practicing newly-acquired skills, reading assignments, etc.) to hasten results. Throughout this process, you will get to know how I approach things. It’s really important that you feel comfortable working with me because beyond the techniques and theories any therapist uses, evidence suggests the relationship itself is a primary element of successful therapy. If you don’t feel like we’re a “fit” after giving it a few sessions, please let me know and I will assist you in finding another coach or therapist.